I could hear the phone ringing before I unlocked the door.  Throwing my coat over my chair I dove for the phone, breathlessly answering and sinking into my chair.

“Good Morning, (name of Company), this is Kirsten may I help you?”

As the caller launched into their crisis of the day the phone rang again.  Before I knew it I had a handful of clients in crisis and my co-worker and I were trouble shooting and scrambling as fast as we could.

It wasn’t even 8am yet and I already felt like I’d worked a full day.

This was my first “real job” out of college.  I was so proud of myself for landing it and for working my way to this position.  There things I liked about this job; namely The Company bought me a super nice wardrobe, flew me around for various training, and I got to work downtown right next to Superman.  I felt so cosmopolitan eating lunch with the business crowd on a daily basis.  In a word, I felt like a grown up.

But the pace was killing me.

I began to wonder what was wrong with me.  Why wasn’t I invigorated by the adrenaline like my colleagues?  Why did I have to hold back tears of overwhelm every morning?  Did I not have what it takes to be successful in business?  Was all that time and money spent on college just a waste?

I felt like a failure.  Not because I was making mistakes but because every day left me feeling on the verge of a nervous breakdown.

All my life I’d been an “achiever”.  I always got good grades.  School was easy and if a class was hard I figured it out.  I went on to college and graduated. It was common for me to “win”, to achieve, and to be put in charge.  And I’d always handled it with ease.  In fact, I thrived on climbing the ladder and getting what I wanted.

So what was wrong this time?

In a nutshell, this pace, the cadence of this profession was chaos in the morning, slow and steady in the afternoon.

The exact opposite of how I operate.

I’m fine with getting up early and having active, even chaotic mornings.  But I what I can’t navigate is pressure in the morning.

It wasn’t that I was a failure after all!  And The Company wasn’t a failure either.  We just weren’t a match.

What about you?  Have you had situations when you thought there was something wrong (with yourself or someone/something else) only to discover you were just mismatched from the beginning?

I’ve been having a lot of conversations lately with people feeling like they should be something (or be doing something) they’re not.

I’m here to tell you, this belief (thinking you should be/do/desire what everyone else wants) is one of the most insidious belief systems perpetuated by our society. This message is driven deeply into our core by our culture, media, educational system, corporate cultures, families, and so much more.

Some call it “keeping up with the Jones’s” (whoever they are). I call it feeling like a square peg in a round hole.

Maybe you’ve felt or are feeling this way too. Maybe you know what it feels like to be out of sync with the norm, working hard but feeling unfulfilled, being tired, overwhelmed, or feeling incomplete somehow. Or just working really hard but wondering for what??

Although this isn’t a new phenomenon, what worries me is that you will take these feelings and somehow think it’s you that’s the problem. I worry you’re trying to reshape yourself to fit the mold better. I worry you’re assuming there is something wrong with you when you can’t keep up or don’t want to keep up. I especially worry you’ll look at your dissatisfaction with life and ask, “Why isn’t this enough for me when it is for everyone else? What’s my problem? How do I fix me?”

But I ask you, when you feel like a square peg in a round hole, why do you question your shape? Why do you ask what you need to change or what you’re doing wrong?

Why aren’t you questioning the shape of the hole? Why aren’t you asking, “Hey, why is that hole round? Who said that’s the best way? Who and why is that the only way offered to me? Does that round hole even appeal to me?”

I know it’s not easy. And I’m not suggesting it is. I’m just saying, if you feel like something isn’t working. Before you assume it’s all your fault, or you’re doing something wrong, take a look at how you’re defining “working”. And make sure it’s a match for you.

As noted in Part 1, the main difference between these two methods is The Quick Pulse clears energy while BodyTalk synchronizes energy.

The Quick Pulse is the catalyst for releasing negative energetic patterns.  And you could very well stop here.  However, I have found that when I combine these two methods into one session the results are more reliable and ultimately move you closer to well-being faster.

BodyTalk is important because it improves communication between your physical body, your emotions, and spirit.  BodyTalk also neutralizes the impact that environmental influences (people, places, situations) have on you.  This alone has a huge impact on how easy life feels.

Think of it this way…
At every moment of every day all of your bits and parts and pieces are talking to each other, enabling your body and mind to function properly.  And ‘properly’ in this case means working for your greater benefit.  You know you’re all “synced up properly” when you bounce back from physical or emotional upheaval easily.

Sometimes it helps to think of the mind/body/spirit connection like it’s a corporation

• Imagine your body parts (organs, endocrines, muscles, etc.) are the employees who work in the corporation.
• And picture the systems of your body (reproductive, cardiovascular, skeletal systems, etc.) are the departments (which are comprised of individual employees).
• Now consider your mind (and emotions) as the culture of the corporation.
• And your spirit as the mission statement for the corporation.

Put it all together
If there is miscommunication within or between any of the employees (parts) or between departments (systems) the organization ceases to function optimally.  Or what if the work environment is hostile, overly competitive, or intolerant (mind/emotions), what happens then?

If the people and departments are fine, but the corporation has an unclear vision the people and departments get confused, frustrated, or ineffective and begin to shut down.

It is like this with your body too.   When different parts of you are not communicating fully you feel bad.   When this miscommunication continues over a long period of time we call it chronic illness.  In business we call it bankruptcy.

BodyTalk’s role
BodyTalk works like a mediator in a corporation.  A mediator looks at the corporation as a whole and highlights dysfunction within the corporation.  What makes the mediator effective is the ability to look globally from a broad perspective for problems and then suggests strategies to correct these.

From a BodyTalk perspective, the practitioner uses the BodyTalk System to highlight which bits and parts and pieces aren’t talking to each other.  As attention is brought to these areas, the innate wisdom of the client “sees” it differently and is then able to correct the discrepancy.

While BodyTalk and The Quick Pulse are both energy medicine, how they work are quite different.  They are both excellent systems in their own right.  However, I have found that the combination of both clearing and synchronizing the energy body provides the most significant and reliable change.

Kirsten Hope CBP, CHt, QPP specializes in offering The Quick Pulse, The BodyTalk System, and Hypnotherapy for adults and children who want to live a healthier, more liberated lifestyle.  You can contact her through her contact page.

Quite simply, The Quick Pulse clears your energy body while BodyTalk resynchronizes your energy.

When you have something going on in your life that is creating pain (anger, sadness, worry, confusion, grief, pain, etc.) your energetic frequency contracts, becoming denser and heavier.  When this happens your physical body also contracts, restricting circulation and communication between body parts.  This creates a destructive loop of emotional pain feeding physical pain and back again. 

Now imagine you and a friend are standing facing each other, palms against each other’s, and you’re both trying to push the other one over.  This is similar to the physical/emotional pain feedback loop I’m talking about.  You’re pressing your friend and they’re pressing against you.   Now imagine your friend suddenly stepping away.  The tension is immediately released.

When you are in this loop it is virtually impossible to receive guidance and divine intervention to resolve your problems.  This is why you feel stuck.   When you use The Quick Pulse Technique you are actively clearing this dense and heavy energy from your body, releasing half of the equation.

And when this happens you feel better.  When you feel better you vibrate at a higher frequency increasing your ability to receive more of what you want.  This resolution often comes through divine intervention (some call this ‘coincidence’) and the disappearance of symptoms. 

The Quick Pulse then is the catalyst for releasing negative energetic patterns in your body, in your life, and in your circumstances.  And you could very well stop here. 

However, many people have noticed that when they recalibrate their body to the changes The Quick Pulse brings they get even better, more noticeable changes.  And this is where BodyTalk comes in.

Stay tuned for Part 2.  What does BodyTalk do?

Kirsten Hope CBP, CHt, QPP specializes in offering The Quick Pulse, The BodyTalk System, and Hypnotherapy for adults and children who want to live a healthier, more liberated lifestyle.  You can contact her through her contact page.

Article by Jeremy Dean

Humans can be an untrusting race. People are often very cynical about human nature, tending to think that strangers will happily lie to us if there is something in it for them.

We intuitive believe that being cynical is an advantage in detecting lies. Or so Nancy Carter and J. Mark Weber found when they asked a group of MBA students whether people high or low in trust would be better at detecting lies in others (Carter & Weber, 2010).

The results were as we’d expect: 85% thought low trusters are better than high trusters at lie detection.

Is this the right answer though? Are low-trusters really better at detecting lies?… Read Full Article

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Whether you’re on a roll or feeling down, take a moment to consider…

• In what way will I take better care of myself today than yesterday?
• What am I worrying about that doesn’t really matter or has no immediate resolution?
• What am I trying to fix that doesn’t need fixing?
• When I look back on my day, what will I feel most proud of?
• What can I say yes to or no to that will improve my quality of my life?

Kirsten Hope CBP, CHt, QPP specializes in offering The Quick Pulse, The BodyTalk System, and Hypnotherapy for adults and children who want to live a healthier, more liberated lifestyle.  You can contact her through her contact page.

Thank you to my friend Dayle for sharing this with me! Please enjoy this stunning showcase of how you can help change the world.

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Kirsten Hope CBP, CHt, QPP specializes in offering The Quick Pulse, The BodyTalk System, and Hypnotherapy for adults and children who want to live a healthier, more liberated lifestyle.  You can contact her through her contact page.

“Oooohh,” I thought,”Lucky!” But then I hesitated. Should I pass it off as my own? Should I turn it in? Should I try to find the person who dropped it?  What was the right thing to do?

This small situation begged the question “What was the right thing to do?”

We all face situations when there is no clear answer.  Usually when we’re unsure we start looking outside ourselves for other people’s opinions.  But when you do this you miss an opportunity to learn about yourself and unlock your own intuitive guidance.

3 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF IN ANY DILEMMA

QUESTION #1: What is my first instinct and how does it make me feel?

People fall into two categories when asked this question.

Group 1 instinctively goes for what is right for them and they feel at peace.

Group 2 instinctively goes for what is in it for them and they feel uneasy.

If you feel at ease  with your first response you’re on the right track and you’re done.  If  not, keep asking questions.

It doesn’t matter which group you fall into because each one will lead you to the right choice. The key is to pay attention to how you feel.

QUESTION #2: If you proceed with action based on your first instinct how will you feel then?

Do you feel peaceful, and at ease?  If yes, you are done.

If you are left with feelings such as anger, worry, guilt, shame, regret, panic, protectiveness go on to question #3.

QUESTION #3: What specific act will quell these negative feelings?

This answer is your moral code. It is what is right for you. How do you know? Because it makes you feel at peace again, calm. You feel bigger, not smaller. You feel pride in who you are.

The problem with these questions is when people fall into Group 2 they sometimes feel ashamed of their feelings and they stop exploring their answers.

The ability to be honest with yourself, to recognize your light side and your dark side will always move you closer to opening your intuition than hiding from who you are. And believe me we all have a dark side. It’s just takes practice to embrace it.

Cheers to the Good Life and keep asking questions!

Kirsten Hope CBP, CHt, QPP specializes in offering The Quick Pulse, The BodyTalk System, and Hypnotherapy for adults and children who want to live a healthier, more liberated lifestyle.  You can contact her through her contact page.

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Overcoming fear, it’s funny.  A lot of people think I’m forever optimistic, that my life is easy, that my troubles aren’t much.  They say this is why it’s so easy for me to do what I do, that if I had their problems I would struggle like they do. 

But really I’m human just like “them”.  I have an everyday life just like you.  And granted, I have a lot of tools, understanding, and insight that helps life feel easy.  But it’s a mistake to think that this is always simple.  Sometimes I have to go looking for easy.

For a many of us it’s been a tough week.  The series of events in Japan and around the world have left us feeling ill at ease, vulnerable, and exposed.  Personally, I have leaned so far into fear that I temporarily allowed my environment to consume me. 

My usual ability to bounce back from adversity and find my equilibrium has been hard to come by.  This is life.  It is not always easy but I know I must always, always find easy within the hardship.  This is what I teach, this is what I believe, and this is how I live.   Fear does not define me anymore.
 
When I get caught up in fear (and we ALL do from time to time) I pull inside and listen to my heart and ask: “What do I need to feel safe?  What do I need to feel love?”  What do I need?”

And this is what I came up with:
…keep my exercise routine
…balance my checkbook, organize my taxes, and clean my house
…turn off my computer and spend more time with my kids
…reconnect with my neighbors after a winter of staying indoors
…stay present with my clients (thank goodness for my clients!  I love them.)
…use the healing techniques I know so well for myself
…laugh with my friends about something completely irrelevant
…talk to my husband
…keep my commitments
…make good food

Sometimes the list looks quite different.  Sometimes I don’t keep my routine, I do break commitments, I don’t make time for friends because these are what my heart needs then.  But this week, this was my list.

And today I feel better.  My optimism is back, I feel love, hope, and that all will be well.  And life feels easy again.

Kirsten Hope CBP, CHt, QPP specializes in offering The Quick Pulse, The BodyTalk System, and Hypnotherapy for adults and children who desire to live a healthier, more liberated lifestyle.  You can contact her through the contact page.

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(shared with permission, names have been changed)
A client came in for BodyTalk and The Quick Pulse because she was feeling nervous about an upcoming business trip. We’ll call her “Nadine.” As Nadine and I talked it became clear that there were three main factors to her discomfort. These were: her weight, a bossy co-worker, and self-confidence.  We also spoke about other items like life purpose, but the main focus of the session was her upcoming trip.

We did several rounds of The Quick Pulse. She addressed how draining it had been for her to work with this person in the past, how the person’s apparent lack of respect both angered and exhausted her, and her concerns about her weight (especially having to do with traveling). This was followed by a BodyTalk session.

When she got back she shared the following story:
At dinner the first night her co-worker told her about a couple books she’d been reading.  The books were about Nadine’s life-long passion!  Coincidence?  Not hardly.

This was followed by several days of selling side-by-side.  In the past this experience would include the bossy co-worker hovering and interrupting Nadine’s demonstrations to ask “constructive” questions.  Surprisingly, bossy never once butted in or asked if Nadine did this or said that.  A pure success from my point of view!

Nadine came home excited from her travels instead of exhausted. She wrote to me saying, “I felt a whole new confidence level in demonstrating our product, as well as answering people’s questions”. Wow!

She finished with, “So, thanks for working with me – things are certainly shifting.”

Isn’t that a fun story?  This is what happens when we open our hearts to possibility and release the density of our negative experiences using The Quick Pulse and BodyTalk.

Kirsten Hope CBP, CHt, QPP specializes in offering The Quick Pulse, The BodyTalk System, and Hypnotherapy for adults and children who desire to live a healthier, more liberated lifestyle.  You can contact her through the contact page.